From grief and stress to laughter

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James Gordon, MD dancing with Syrian refugee leaders and care-givers during mind-body training

Sadness pervades the first few small group sessions, the dark past casting a shadow on the present. A Syrian refugee feels his brother’s loss in each imaginative exercise, in every moment of quiet. A Palestinian aid worker, long out of Gaza, closes his eyes and sees a family home destroyed, tells us of lying in bed at night, the sound of a distant helicopter still vibrating angrily through his body, just as it did in Gaza. A young Iraqi woman feels pulled in a dozen different directions toward family members whom she cannot reach.

Small group sharing.

Meanwhile, the pictures of Jordanian aid workers are filled with endless to-do lists, stern clocks commanding ever more and ever-faster activity to meet the needs of the 1 million Syrians who have taken refuge in this country. Some hear parental voices condemning all acts and thoughts that are less than perfect. There’s a sense of urgency about the work that needs to be done and deep concern that they will not be up to the task.

Toward the end of the second day, a large group exercise—shouting “yes” and “no” at one another— brings up feelings of resistance and acquiescence, anger, and affirmation. Dancing the Debeke, a traditional line dance, after, we feel liberated. Laughter fills the room.

Looking for wisdom and support in genograms (family trees).

Part 3: Meditating and finding solutions

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James S. Gordon, MD

James S. Gordon, MD

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James S. Gordon, MD is Founder and Director of The Center for Mind-Body Medicine; Clinical Professor, Department of Psychiatry and Family Medicine; Georgetown University School of Medicine and author of Manifesto for a New Medicine, Comprehensive Cancer Care, and Unstuck: Your Guide to the Seven Stage Journey out of Depression.

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